If the behavior of a real woman is cleaned from manipulation, there will be no woman left. And the men will be upset from this in the first place.
Most representatives of the beautiful half of humanity believe that they know how to manage men. In fact, only a few of them are fluent in this art.
Let's figure out what female manipulation is. Let's give an example: a beautiful long-legged girl in a very short skirt is walking down the street. Q: Is the shape of her dress a manipulation? It all depends on whether she intentionally put on this particular skirt, whether she pursued the goal of attracting the attention of surrounding men, whether she wanted to influence them with her long legs, or whether she did it unconsciously, without pursuing any goals, but she just likes to dress like this. If she did it intentionally, then this is manipulation of pure water, but if she chose this particular thing from her wardrobe completely by accident, then there is no manipulation.
The first rule of manipulation is that your interlocutor does not notice that he is under your influence, so that he does not understand that he is dancing to someone else's tune, so that a treacherous thought does not arise in his mind that he is being manipulated.
This is a book for those women who want to learn how to manage men, to get them to fulfill any desire. If you dream of influencing the behavior of your loved one, your friend or just a colleague, we invite you on an interesting, exciting journey into the depths of male psychology. By learning the 49 rules, you'll be armed with a whole arsenal of the latest tactics with which you can bend any man to your will. Go ahead.
Three reasons to use manipulation
Rule #1
Men always want to see a woman in you
Have you set out to convince a man of something and do not know how to proceed with the implementation of your plan? Your main trump card is that you are a woman, and it's a sin not to use it. Even if there is no intimate relationship between you and your interlocutor, if this man is your boss or colleague, do not think that he does not notice that you are a woman. Here are just a few tips on how to use your charms to achieve the desired result.
In order to win over a man, you need to cause physical attraction in your interlocutor. This kind of manipulation is based on the fact that a man in whom natural instincts wake up can no longer reason sensibly and logically. He feels himself in the power of a woman. Even if his mind tells him that he should not agree with you, that he should not give in and fulfill your desire, his flesh tells him the opposite. In this case, his libido is your ally in the difficult task of controlling a man, and your task is to awaken a man's interest in you as a woman.
When preparing for a conversation with your "victim", think everything through in advance. You should dress a little more revealingly than usual. Just don't overdo it with candor. Remember the golden rule: a hint of nudity looks sexier than nudity itself. You should look so that there is room for male fantasy. Do not show all your charms. Give preference to a shallow neckline of the blouse, but at the same time do not forget to unbutton the top button, do not wear too short a skirt, it looks vulgar, it is better to choose the classic version - knee length with a slit that slightly opens the lace stocking. Choose your perfume and make-up carefully. The aroma should be very light, barely perceptible, so that your interlocutor does not start to choke in the middle of a conversation. Nothing should annoy you.
If your interlocutor is equal to you in status, a colleague or friend, you can apply the tactile impact method. You can touch a man, but not too openly. Light strokes on the shoulder or arm will evoke pleasant emotions in him. However, do not try to break the distance and enter the personal space of a person above you in position - your boss or teacher. This can be perceived as a display of disrespect and violation of subordination.
If you manage to create the image of a desired woman, your interlocutor, under the influence of your spell, will certainly agree to fulfill your request. Although sometimes in order to persuade a man to make the right decision, it is not enough just to be a charming and attractive woman. You have to use a whole range of manipulative techniques to achieve the desired result. Read more about these techniques below.
Rule #2
A man does not like it when a woman encroaches on his freedom.
Remember folk wisdom: listen to what a woman says, and do the opposite. This is how most of the male population lives. They consider any advice from the fair sex to be an attack on their freedom and thus force us to use manipulation to get our way.
To understand why we, women, use manipulation, we must proceed from the axiom that men are freedom-loving creatures. Any encroachment on their freedom - whether it be returning from work at the exact time indicated by the wife, planning his leisure time, banning him from meeting friends or some other conditions - this is disrespect for him as a person and an expression of distrust, which humiliates and offends his dignity . Your reproaches and advice make him act differently than you would like, he deliberately, like a teenager, does everything to spite you only in order to assert his own right to freedom. As a result, a conflict is brewing, which is resolved sooner or later. It can be resolved in several ways.
Method 1 - "totalitarian": one of the parties surrenders: it can be either a man or a woman, depending on what is stronger - action or reaction. There is a distribution of roles: the strongest wins the struggle for power.
Method 2 - “they didn’t get along”: both can’t stand it, the conflict is resolved by parting.
Method 3 is “manipulative”: a woman takes the reins of hidden government, while a man does not lose his sense of freedom, believing that he does his actions of his own free will, although in fact he is under the influence of his wife / lover.
Here are some ways to covertly control a man:
1. Do not use the imperative (imperative mood) when referring to a man (go there, don't do that, etc.). Such a wording of a request or advice is always perceived by a man as an attempt to control him, an encroachment on his freedom. You can use a request-question:
– Honey, I started cleaning, could you help me?(Instead of: "Vacuum the house and wash the dishes.")
Or a rhetorical question:
- I'm late at work tomorrow, I don't even know who will pick up the child from kindergarten?(Instead of: "Tomorrow pick up the child from kindergarten.")
2. Come up with an alternative. Your beloved is going to the next "sabantuy" with friends. Do not forbid him this in an ultimatum form, just offer another option for spending your leisure time. For example, invite him to the premiere of a movie he has been wanting to see for a long time, or cook up a “fantastic” dinner that he definitely won’t refuse. Choosing such an alternative, you should intrigue the man, offer him something worthwhile, so that he does not doubt that he made the right choice, exchanging the “beer” party for an unforgettable evening by candlelight.
3. It is best to make sure that your beloved himself comes to the right decision. Your task is to prompt him, hint. For example, you really do not want to go on a picnic with his friends. Do not try to persuade him to abandon this idea by declaring your desire on the forehead. Get him to express his desire not to go. In the middle of a conversation, you might complain that the weather this particular weekend will be rainy, that the preparation for the picnic was not good enough, and that the place was not chosen at all. It is best if these arguments are inspired not only by you, but also by someone else from your company, then he will believe in the objectivity of these arguments and abandon his idea himself.
When he got his, he “used you and left you”? And now you want just as cynically use men? Why do you need this? Think again!!! Everything will still be fine.
But if right now this is unrealistic for you, if you really want to feel like a bitch with a capital C, so be it, I will play along with you.
You, too, can easily get "your own" and gain the upper hand. Turn it all into a game, play enough, and someday you will stop anyway.
How did my first love
She joined us from another class and immediately sat down at my desk. She seemed to have calculated everything in advance, because I was one of those whose "genius" brains the whole class aspired to use. But as soon as what is now commonly called “foreign intellectual property” became available to her (I solved all the equations for her, I wrote essays for her, I warned her mistakes in dictations, and she?) She moved from me a month later, when another big-headed guy with a cute face came to our class!
Her trump cards:
She was a natural blonde and seemed so stupid! She did not know what it was, while she was on her own mind.
(The fact that she was not a fool, I realized much later than I should have) She was not only not shy about "blunting", she made herself look like a fool at every opportunity, and seemed to get some special, perverse pleasure from it:
- Oh, how smart you are! Next to you, I feel like such a fool!
“I spent the whole night solving this problem, and you did it in a minute!”
“You should be smart, but I can just be beautiful!”
- It seems to you that I am stupid, so you are right: without you, I will immediately jump into deuces.
Somewhere I read an unforgettable quote: "A woman who thinks is one who is not thought about." So if you want use men- your first trump card is not to think in their presence.
How did my mistress
Before I met my mistress, my wife, a woman who was positive in every way, was the sole owner of my body and soul. She was my mother, mistress and helmsman all rolled into one. My little wife took care of me like a little son and, apparently with the best of intentions, constantly tried to impose her will.
At first I did not resist, then I felt that I had “grown up” after all, and She appeared. Against the background of my wife, it seemed that she treated me almost "not giving a damn." While my wife said: “You don’t need to lose weight, the main thing is that you feel good,” she declared that I was just lazy and demanded to pull myself together and “become handsome.” While my wife carefully protected me from all vices, for example, checking my pockets for the presence of cigarettes, my cigar-lighting mistress became more and more associated with all sorts of forbidden pleasures.
So, trump card two: to use men, you need to keep your maternal instinct under control and be able to evoke pleasant associations.
How does my daughter do it?
My twenty-year-old daughter is far from beautiful, she does not shine with talents and does not sprinkle with witty quotes. And yet, wherever she appears, she always manages to be the center of attention of all men.
I'll try to explain why it is such a wild success.
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Hidden management in official relations can be used by both managers and subordinates. However, there are also specific tasks arising from the difference in the official position of the first and second.
Manipulation in working relationships can pursue the following goals and objectives:
To make the other an instrument for the fulfillment of one's intentions;
to transfer part of your work to another;
avoid personal responsibility, in particular, by shifting it to others;
assert itself (including at the expense of another);
resolve their psychological problems, including intrapersonal conflicts;
give the relationship the desired look (for example, establish a distance, show a degree of trust, etc.);
get a gain in the comfort of your position.
Hidden management of the head
Not only leaders manage subordinates, but also subordinates - leaders. Their goals are almost the same, since they are scooped from the list above. However, there are two significant features:
1. Hidden control is the only way for subordinates to control leaders (an exception is a strike, but this is an extreme measure when disobedience takes on a collective character; besides, this will be control by subordinates only in case of victory over the administration, which is far from always the case).
2. When managing his boss, the subordinate acts more carefully, since the leader's realization that he is being controlled can cost the subordinate dearly.
Hidden management of the chief is carried out in the following areas:
Neutralization of his shortcomings as a leader (lack of professionalism, negative character traits, gaps in education, lack of culture);
achievement of personal benefits of the initiator of the impact not to the detriment of the work and the leader;
obtaining personal gain to the detriment of work, colleagues, manager. The last case will be called manipulation.
Any uninitiated subordinate who comes to the boss's office without suggestions, waiting for instructions, poses a constant threat to the leader. By suggesting a decision, advising, the leader assumes responsibility and removes it from the subordinate. The load on the first increases, on the second - decreases.
A subordinate can behave this way either by force or on his own initiative. Forcing him to do this is usually the autocratic style of behavior of the boss, in which the creative potential of the employee turns out to be unclaimed, the return from him is much less possible, while the boss is overloaded with many small issues, which is also not good for the cause. A subordinate who acts in this way of his own free will is a manipulator.
If hidden management is carried out by him deliberately, then as a result - the removal of responsibility, reducing the workload.
If unconsciously, then the gain is psychological. After all, if a person is naturally indecisive, overly cautious, anxious, then the position of submission is more comfortable for him.
Consider options for manipulating a subordinate by his boss
Manipulation "Monkey on the neck"
The subordinate turns to the boss: “You instructed me to get a truck crane. He is (there), but not with my authority to address them. Now, if you would say a few words ... I can dial the phone number of their boss. The flattered boss agrees: "Okay, let me tell you."
But more often than not, the matter is not resolved with one call: either the right person is not there, or counter conditions are put forward. “Okay, go, I will solve this issue,” the boss says. The next day, the subordinate looks into the manager’s office with an air of complete humility and asks in a pleading tone: “Well, haven’t you decided?”. Busy with the turnover, the manager waves at him: “Go work, I’ll decide.” After a while, the subordinate again asks if the issue has been resolved, and this can continue for quite some time.
In managerial jargon, an assignment hanging on the performer is called a "monkey around the neck." In the described case, the "monkey" "jumped" onto the boss's neck.
Manipulation "I want to consult with you"
Some employees like to go to the management to "consult". This is, of course, a manipulation in order to shift the responsibility for making a decision and even for its implementation to the manager, because if the case fails, then there will be an opportunity to write off the quality of the advice: “I did everything as you said.” (Although, as we know, bad execution can spoil the best idea.)
Manipulation "I'm being torn apart"
The employee willingly takes on many assignments, but when they try to get some specific result from him, he refers to overload, listing everything that is “heaped” on him. It is curious that some do so unconsciously, sincerely believing that they give themselves to the work to the end. These can be extremely energetic, but unorganized people, for whom the process of vigorous activity is more important than the result.
Manipulation "Orphan of Kazan"
Manipulation "Child at work"
This manipulation is played out by some workers, pretending to be stupid. They say about such people: “It’s faster to do it yourself than to explain something to him, and you’ll also have to redo it.” Typical statements of manipulators of this kind: "I'm not a professor", "I'm a weak woman, what do you want?", "We didn't finish the academies." It is beneficial for these people to be known as narrow-minded and arouse sympathy.
Manipulation "Get the signature of the head"
The subordinate must sign a paper with the head. However, if the leader reads the document, he most likely will not sign it. To still get a signature, sometimes they act like this.
The subordinate enters the office with a carefree air and reports some news that, in his opinion, should be of interest to the boss. At the same time, he casually holds out the document:
Here, please sign.
- What is it?
- Yes, a trifling paper, everyone agrees, only your signature is missing.
The boss tries to read, but the visitor distracts with a story and even fakes a rush. Often this trick works. The purpose of manipulation is to shift responsibility to the leader. If something happens - answer the one whose signature is on the document.
Manipulation "Over the boss's head"
A higher manager often gives instructions to an employee, bypassing his immediate supervisor. Therefore, the subordinate refuses to carry out some of the orders of the latter, referring to the urgent task of the superior. The boss feels hurt.
First, getting rejected by a subordinate is always unpleasant.
Secondly, if there is no one else to entrust this task, you have to do the work for a subordinate.
The boss is no less worried about the fact that he is not always sure whether the subordinate is really busy with the work entrusted by the superior leader, or simply hides behind it, because several times he did not find the subordinate at work, the same one left a note that he was released by the superior.
In this situation, the unprofessionalism of a higher manager in working with personnel is obvious, the victim of which is the immediate supervisor. The subordinate's behavior is manipulative. If he had not intended to abuse the situation he had created, he would have behaved differently. For example, he would promptly inform his immediate supervisor about the assignments received and coordinate with him the work schedule and his absences. However, if the superior leader takes his unethical actions quite consciously in order to annoy the subordinate leader, then he is the manipulator.
Manipulation "Did you hear?"
The begining of the work day. N., who is very late, runs in and from the threshold ("Haven't you heard yet? ..") begins to excitedly talk about the statement made on the radio by the political leader. Colleagues are taken to vigorously discuss the news brought. The chief is also among those discussing: as a local deputy, he cannot remain indifferent. N. herself pretty soon ceases to participate in the conversation and sits down at her desk.
The purpose of the manipulation is obvious - to divert attention from the fact of being late and possible censure for it. To ensure the boss's pliability to manipulative influence, a rapid pace of actions and excited intonations of the voice are set, the entire department is quickly involved in the conversation (the impact on the boss is masked, and "warming up" the audience "warms up" the boss as well).
In addition to distracting attention from N.'s lateness, the conversation also perfectly disguises her manipulative intent, allowing her to say, on occasion, "I was just sharing my experience." The behavior also hints that the reason for being late was listening to the speech (to keep everyone informed!). Others make a well-known perceptual error: "immediately after" is equated with "because." In the form of a hint that encourages an implicit inference, this construction has the greatest impact.
Manipulation "Small services"
Often, subordinates provide minor services to superiors: they get a scarce spare part; they bring from a business trip, from vacation a small present; on his birthday or other holiday, they congratulate him more heartily than others or make the best gift; take a queue for him, etc. All this is presented as a sincere display of respect. And since these actions are systematically repeated, they create in the leader a sense of duty to the sender of these actions, especially if he acts subtly, unobtrusively. And this debt is usually returned - by promotion, salary increase, bonuses, prestigious business trips, etc.
Manipulation "The master will judge us"
The lead engineer requires the junior engineer to free up space at the computer to do his job. Not wanting to give in, he begins to loudly argue that he needs more time to finish his work. The argument reaches the boss, who intervenes and gives the younger one time to finish the job.
It is useful for any woman to know how to manipulate a man. This skill will allow her to receive gifts and care. With its help, you can significantly improve your financial situation.
Reasons for manipulating men
The skill of managing the representatives of the stronger sex is not given from birth. The girl will have to learn this. Experts are sure that this allows ladies to compete with each other and achieve the highest position in the hierarchy.
Important! A woman resorts to manipulation at her own discretion. Usually this is necessary to obtain some kind of benefit.
Girls usually use male weaknesses for this. Sometimes young people are not even aware of such problems. A woman may seek to manipulate for various reasons:
- desire to assert themselves;
- material benefit;
- revenge, etc.
There is nothing wrong with getting what you want. Some representatives of the weaker sex are sure that with the help of manipulation it is possible to stimulate a man and give him the opportunity to realize an ancient instinct.
Previously, the role of a guy was simple: he had to protect the house and bring food, with the development of civilization, this has become less important. Subconsciously, guys still strive to fulfill their duties, and the inability to fulfill them only depresses. With the help of manipulation, a woman makes her partner feel like a real protector and earner.
Possible ways
Do not be afraid to try to manage the chosen one, as experience comes only with constant practice. There are several possible schemes to work with. Each of them is effective in its own way, and it is impossible to say in advance which one will suit a particular woman.
If a girl is determined and wants to understand how to control a man with the help of psychology, she will have to seriously rethink her life and learn several behavior patterns.
sexual manipulation
At their core, all guys are hunters. Therefore, if a potential victim cannot be caught in your trap in any way, this is very annoying. If a woman wants to understand how to control a man, she needs to make herself desirable and inaccessible.
First you need to take care of your appearance. A beautiful, attractive and sexy woman evokes desire. For such a person, any guy will try and do anything.
Therefore, a woman should make her image literate in terms of style. To do this, you can contact a specialist who will select a hairstyle, makeup and tell you how to properly form a wardrobe.
Male psychology is very simple: they love with their eyes. Therefore, a well-groomed girl with a pedicure, manicure and cosmetics will appeal to most. After completing the preparatory activities, you can begin the process.
Through sex, you can carry out several options for manipulating men. The first is the inaccessibility of fast sex. You should not immediately agree to it at the first meeting. The more the potential chosen one waits, the faster he will agree to various concessions.
For dates, you need to choose frank and erotic outfits that will make the representatives of the stronger sex hold their eyes on the figure. Intimacy should act as a reward for something. Therefore, you should not rush with it.
In a relationship, sex can also be used for manipulation. The girl may ask for something, for example, gold earrings. As soon as the guy agrees to buy them, you must immediately have sex with him - this will cement the connection between the gift and the promotion.
Another way is to deny intimacy. You should be careful with this, as you can achieve a negative effect. Therefore, this option is suitable for single use. If a girl is upset about something, then she should not have sex with a guy - this will strengthen the negative connection between the act and the punishment.
Going for change is a bad idea. Most guys will not forgive such an act, and almost all will refuse to continue to maintain a relationship.
Word management
Various reproaches in the spirit of "you're a man!", "You have to", "you hurt me", etc. aimed at creating feelings of shame. This is followed by tears, hysteria and other manifestations of emotions.
Important! A similar scheme is instilled in childhood, when a small child tries to influence his parents. If he gets what he wants, then the behavior becomes habitual.
Not a single man can look at a crying beloved for a long time and will try to atone for his guilt. He will help in any business or give an expensive thing.
It is important for a woman not to overdo it. Tantrums for any little reason will lead to the opposite effect. Most likely, the guy will refuse such a relationship, this will lead to separation.
In conflicts, the phrase “you won” helps. A man will feel a surge of dopamine and relax. Don't jump to accusations. It is enough to casually screw in the construction: “I know that you want to do this, I would be pleased with another option, but I respect the choice of a loved one.” After this phrase, you can act to get the desired goal, since the guy has already lost his vigilance.
Other control methods
Caress and a hearty dinner are ways to calm any member of the stronger sex. The manipulation of men is based on the simple following of instincts. Therefore, it is enough for a girl to understand the mechanism of their work.
You can manipulate a man by psychological methods. To do this, it is enough to relax him by creating a pleasant atmosphere: twilight, comfortable bed, massage, etc. After such a session of relaxation, he will be ready for anything.
If a young man loves tactile caresses, then you should start with small touches: from the shoulder to the elbow, neck and torso. All this should not be aimed at excitement, but at the usual relaxation. Therefore, the sensitivity of different zones must be taken into account.
A woman will not immediately understand how to manipulate her husband correctly. For example, she may leave him without an alternative. Instead of asking once again when he will buy a dress, it is better to put him before the fact: on a certain day he goes to the store.
How to find weak points
In order to understand how to learn how to manipulate men, you need to be able to determine the important aspects of their personality. Thanks to this information, one can easily master the management skills.
Important! This process requires a high degree of observation. With its help, you can identify subconscious manifestations of weakness.
In correspondence, a woman will notice topics that a guy will try to avoid, for example, past relationships. This may indicate an unpleasant and painful experience. Such material is not suitable for manipulation.
In online communication, it is difficult to single out something in a person, since non-verbal signals cannot be counted. Therefore, it is better to move on to a real acquaintance. In the process, you need to pay attention to the gestures of a person. If he constantly touches his ear, then this symbolizes his self-doubt.
As a result, a woman will constantly praise him, emphasize his dignity and achievements. From her, he will not hear reproaches and insults. This will make the man supple and manageable.
What if a complex character
Not all young people can boast of complaisance and a high level of kindness. Some representatives are of a difficult character. They are wary of praise, have a hard time getting close, and often perceive everything negatively.
Often such people have sad stories in the past. Therefore, they get used to be wary of women. As a rule, even such objects can be dealt with.
Difficult guys can also fall in love. Therefore, a girl needs to support her chosen one, never condemn, more often enough and fulfill his desires. This will give you the opportunity to gain his trust.
This right tactic will pay off in the future, because for the only beloved lady, a man will do anything. After strengthening the relationship, a woman can ask for what she wants, enjoy the favor.
Worth remembering! Any complex character can be changed. The main thing is that the girl really wants to manage this person for the good.
What not to do
The ability to skillfully manipulate is not available to everyone, but it can be mastered at a high level. It will take a lot of practice with different guys to understand the psychology of the stronger sex.
One should not become a tyrant who condemns, insults, suppresses and is a source of violence. Only a very insecure person who already has mental problems will fall under the influence of such a person. It will be easy to manage it, but it is unlikely to be a pleasure.
Making a man who will agree to everything is not so easy. It is not always possible to achieve this the first time. Only long practice will hone the skill and improve it.
If a girl wants to become a skilled lady who easily controls the stronger sex, she will have to work hard and begin to mean a lot to her chosen one.
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Good day! Let's discuss an interesting topic. How to manipulate a man, learn to manage him? Which methods are effective and which are not? Let's describe the methods of manipulation in relationships that allow you to influence a man without his awareness. The techniques presented in this article will have a positive effect on strengthening relationships and will make it possible to influence a man. If a woman is wise, she will use this information for good purposes.
What does it mean to control a man?
What does the phrase "manage a man" mean by itself? Psychology talks about methods that are aimed at managing people, regardless of their will. With the help of manipulation, we put our desires into the heads of the manipulated.
During the manipulation, the impact occurs cunningly, as if on the sly. The main goal is to achieve one's own benefit or self-affirmation through the desire to influence a person.
When a girl likes a young guy, she starts flirting with him - this will be an indicator of openness. But when interest arises on the basis of a guy’s financial capabilities, his status or skills in some area, she will resort to manipulation because of her self-interest.
A girl who has true feelings for a man wants the specific person she likes to pay attention to her. The manipulator wants only to benefit from communication with a person. He himself is not interested in her.
Unfortunately, manipulation is an integral part of our lives. Sometimes her actions can be justified. And yet, I am inclined to the fact that you need to focus your attention on maintaining a relationship with the person you love. To achieve this, you need to be able to master this art, feel a person and more subtly approach your actions. You must carry them out for the good of your union.
How to manage a man?
To control a man, you will need to know the following methods.
Sexual impact
Always look great: among friends, in the workplace, everywhere. Do not forget that everyone is greeted by clothes, especially men, because they love, first of all, with their eyes. Add some eroticism to your appearance to cloud the heads of men. Lace, miniskirts, plunging necklines, a pleasant scent of perfume, smooth, well-groomed skin and hair - everything will do you good to add sexuality. Coquetry and flirting skills will help to overwhelm any guy.
Needs
Knowing what men want, and satisfying their desires in time, you will win him over. You become a desirable person in the company. Show your attention, care, affection, support him in difficult times. The guy needs to understand that if you are not around, he will live harder and not as joyfully as with you. Realizing this state of affairs, he will begin to respond with mutual good deeds, wanting to please you, be useful and help bring your desires to life.
Self-mastery
Demonstrate self-confidence, calmness, steadfastness. If something does not suit you in a partner, switch and do not focus on it. When they vent their emotions on you or express dissatisfaction in person, do not respond in kind, try your best to smooth the situation. A man, seeing that you perceive everything calmly and judiciously, will feel awkward, wrong, and will quickly cool down.
Weaknesses
Give him the opportunity to relax with friends, go fishing and baths. Do not make a scandal on this basis in any case. Consider that this is the same as for you to go for a manicure and relax, chat. Men need emotional relief in order to be more calm and peaceful in the family. Show him your trust, and he will begin to appreciate you even more.
Proverb. To get something, you must first give something. By giving a man what he wants, it will be more difficult for him to refuse you the fulfillment of your desire.
Support
The woman is the guardian of the family hearth. Thanks to her, a cozy atmosphere is created in the family. When you see your husband in a bad mood or angry, help him relax, get the negativity out so that he does not eat him from the inside.
Listen to him, distract from the loading thoughts. You must give the man confidence that everything is fixable, he always has a person who will support him in any situation. Tasty cooked food, comfort in the apartment will help to neutralize irritation and fatigue. When a man is satisfied and calm, he is easier to manipulate.
Avoid insults and brainwashing when he is not in the mood. A wise woman always knows how to turn a man's neck so that he believes that he turned it on his own initiative. The main thing is to show respect and care when turning, not to overdo it with the direction.
Important! Sometimes you can throw a drop of jealousy into a relationship to provoke a greater desire in a man to appreciate a girl. The main thing is not to overdo it so that a scandal does not come out.
Efficient Management
With the correction of male behavior, the presented manipulation tips will help you. For effective manipulation, you need to know some rules.
Confession
It is important for men to realize their success in life. Understanding this fact, a wise woman does not demonstrate clearly that she is many times more successful than him. She praises him at every opportunity, thereby enabling the man to maintain self-esteem. Tell your friends and girlfriends how well done you are, and so on. Soon you will notice gratitude on his part.
Sex
Be a tigress in bed, don't turn intimate life into a boring process. Experiment, praise, take the initiative. Then he will not have the idea to change partners.
Child
No matter how a man refuses, everyone wants to continue his family.
Care
Every man needs care and affection. He needs to feel needed, feel affection and warmth. The manifestation of care calms, gives a feeling of confidence and security. Do not forget that in a family of 3 people, two are children - a child and a husband himself.
To correctly understand and influence his behavior and actions, you need to understand male psychology. Constantly analyzing, you will definitely be able to find an individual approach to it and use it.
Rules of female behavior
Rule 1: Free Will
Don't be the dictator in relationships. Do not saw his brain - where to go and what to do. Such behavior will be perceived by the husband with aggression and a desire to do the opposite. From a male point of view, this behavior will be a manifestation of disrespect and distrust towards him, a restriction of his freedom, an attempt to twist him for selfish purposes.
It is better to approach this issue wisely and offer an alternative to his pastime that will be convenient for both of you. Present the information in such a way that he himself decides to act differently, refusing to act that you may be unpleasant. Use hints, provide information through friends and acquaintances.
Rule 2: Weakness
In today's world, more and more women are coping with their problems on their own. But why be so zealous if there are men? Many men themselves show a desire and initiative to help a woman.
This interest comes from the desire to protect, be needed and significant in her life. Give the man a chance to show that you care, starting with the little things like changing a burned out light bulb, fixing a doorknob, and the like. Starting with small household help, he will begin to grow and move on to bigger things.
Rule 3: Riddle
Regardless of the time spent together, you must have something unknown in yourself that will lure a man to unravel the unknown. Male interest in a lady should be constantly warmed up. If he knows you completely, how flaky, get new hobbies and hobbies, give food for interest. You must remain interesting to a man throughout your life.
Rule 4: Shared Hobbies
You must have common interests: movies, politics, sports, and so on. This will give you the opportunity to get in touch on common topics. If you show your interest in a common topic, interest in you will only increase.
Rule 5: Communication
Spend a lot of time talking. If you want to know something, ask directly, don't beat around the bush. With a large number of different questions, template answers are torn, and he can tell about his secrets.
Rule 6: delicious food
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So it really is. When a man is full, his irritation disappears, he is satisfied and more friendly. The perfect time to find out the answers to your questions.
Rule 7: Arguments
Do not speak in arguments and assumptions. All your speech should contain facts and arguments. You must be sure that you are right. Keep a calm tone in communication, but demonstrate perseverance. Men, with all their reluctance, are ready to accept the arguments.
Advice. A man should be in the first place in importance. When he realizes that he is important to the girl, he has a desire to be responsible and help her in every way possible.
Managing different men
All men are individual, as is their psychotype. There are several types and each needs its own approach.
visuals
For such men, it is important to see the beauty in a woman who will match their desire. The girl should be beautiful, like not only him, but also the surrounding guys. Every little thing will matter.
Such men pay their attention precisely to the external image of the girl. To recognize a visual, look at his gestures, they have it highly developed. They have a sense of style and a keen eye. Most of the men are visuals.
kinesthetics
Such men are quick to contact. They love touches, they are always gentle and soft. Sex with a girl is most important to them. They are pleased with girls who can loosen up in bed and demonstrate their sensuality.
Audials
They have a good memory and a sense of humor. To win over such a man, conduct a dialogue in a sexy, gentle voice, using affectionate words. Do not forget also about the ability to listen to the interlocutor, give him the opportunity to speak out.
Discrets
For such people, the significance of the spoken words and their meaning comes first. They do not so much pay attention to the external indicators of a woman, as to her words. They have a lot of complexes and do not make contact well.
This type of men is quite rare. Most often, such people appear after a bad life experience, because of which they build a barricade from people in their minds so as not to get burned again. Such people do not tolerate criticism and ridicule in their address. They like calm, measured communication. They also accept communication based on arguments and facts.
Understanding the psychotype gives more opportunities for the right approach for manipulation. Rely on the rules of communication so that the man does not suspect that he is following you.
What methods of manipulation are prohibited?
Some women cross the line in the desire to achieve what they want and instead of manipulating, they give rise to a conflict situation. For a man to perceive you adequately, refrain from such.
Comparison
Do not compare a man with other males. Especially if such a comparison is directed not in his favor. This greatly hurts his pride and self-esteem. The girl, on the contrary, should show in every possible way that he is the best for her.
Hysterics
Conflicts, quarrels can sometimes help achieve what you want, but this method is short-lived. Subsequently, the man will get used to such behavior and stop responding to it. He will see that in this way you are trying to achieve your goal, which will lead to his indifference.
Dictatorship
Avoid this behavior. If you communicate with your boyfriend down, then you will either have a henpecked with weak willpower, or an insecure slob who is nothing of himself. A self-respecting man would not allow himself to be treated like this.
Blackmail
Giving ultimatums, limiting his freedom, inducing guilt is not the best way to get what you want. Any blackmail is a disclaimer of responsibility and a game on the feelings of a loved one. Such behavior will have a bad effect on relationships, as trust will be lost.
Imitation
First of all, men are attracted by the difference between the girl and himself. When he observes rudeness, rudeness, straightforwardness in a girl, he simply loses interest in this person. A man in a skirt is of little interest to anyone.
Remember! Don't overdo your manipulation. Learn to feel the line, which in no case should be crossed. Use manipulation only to strengthen your union, and everything will be fine with you.