Every girl needs to know the signs that a guy is not worthy of her attention. Dating a guy like that will make you miserable because they will suck the life out of you one way or another. If you have already started dating a guy who is unworthy of your attention, rather leave him. Believe me, you deserve the best. A girl who is looking for true love should not put up with such behavior.
He wants all your attention
If a guy is too clingy, this is the first sign that he is not worthy of you. Such a guy is easy to recognize, because he does not leave your side for a minute, 24 hours a day. In those rare moments when he is still not with you, he cuts off your phone with calls and bombards you with messages. This type of guy is emotionally needy, he'll only be happy when you're around and pout when you're apart. Avoid such guys, because they will demand that you give them all your free time and you will not have a minute for yourself.
He often disappears
If your boyfriend often disappears and does not make himself felt for days or weeks, then it's time to say goodbye. Nowadays, it takes less than a minute to call or text, so stop putting up with this behavior if it happens regularly. A guy who is in a serious relationship does not have to be hunted down, because he is always in touch with you anyway.
He emotionally abuses you
Another sign of such a guy is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse takes many forms, such as criticism, humiliation, insults, belittling. If your boyfriend makes you feel bad, leave him. Such a guy will destroy your self-esteem and undermine your self-confidence.
He is interrogating
It's okay if your friend is often interested in your life, but if it looks like an interrogation, consider whether it is worth it to be with him. The detective guy is insecure and will examine every hour of your life in detail, looking for signs of suspicious behavior. Even when you were completely honest and sincere with him, he will accuse you of cheating. This type of guy believes that all girls are cheating, and none of your words will change his mind.
He puts little effort into relationships
A relationship with a guy who makes little effort for your union can lead to your emotional exhaustion from the fact that only you do everything to keep the relationship afloat. Relationships require the work of two, only then will people be happy and satisfied. It's not fair if the guy put all the responsibility on your shoulders. If he does not want to work on relationships, then you should not even think about such a guy.
He has a relationship, but not with you
If you go on dates with a guy who every time comes up with new excuses why he can’t be with you, then he clearly doesn’t deserve you. Usually these guys already have someone and are in a long-term relationship. You may hear from him that he cannot leave the family because of the children, or that the divorce is not yet finalized. The worst thing he can tell you is that he is still in love with her and can't choose between the two of you. If he is ready to end his long-term relationship, he will end and be with you!
He is emotionally unavailable
This is a guy who keeps his emotions under lock and key from his partner. Such a guy is not worthy of your attention, because he will never be able to give you the relationship that you are looking for. He will shy away from any serious commitment, and find a bunch of reasons for this. Perhaps he is afraid to commit himself to one girl for life, or he is still healing his broken heart, or simply does not want a serious relationship.
Not all meetings and acquaintances develop into something more. Sometimes a serious relationship is impossible due to the fact that a man does not suit you in some way, but in some cases you may not suit a man. There is nothing wrong with this, because you must admit that love is a complex feeling, and often it arises for reasons beyond our control. In this situation, it would be logical for a man to simply break off the relationship, inviting you to remain friends. But it turns out that not all representatives of the stronger sex find the courage to explain themselves. Some men find it much easier to lie, making up non-existent reasons why you can't be together. Sometimes these excuses look pretty ridiculous, but if you have fallen head over heels in love, you will most likely be ready to believe in any fiction, if only to further indulge yourself in vain illusions.
Here are the 7 most common excuses that you should hear that a man just wants to get rid of you.
1. You are too good for me.
No normal person will give up what he really likes, considering himself unworthy of happiness. If a man tells you that you are too good / beautiful / smart for him, know that he just wants to look like a gentleman in your eyes and is afraid to offend you. Nobody leaves a partner if they think they are perfect, because that sounds stupid to say the least.
2. I still love my ex
Some of this may be true. It is possible that a man really feels affection for his ex-girlfriend, but if he is interested in you and hopes for a continuation of the novel, he will never admit his sincere feelings. With this phrase, the man makes it clear that there will be no romance between you, but not because his heart is not free, but for some other reason.
3. I'm too busy
When a person is in love, or at least feels sincere sympathy, he will find time for a relationship with the object of his passion, regardless of the workload, study or other important matters. If a man justifies himself with his busyness and lack of free time, this means that he simply does not know how to tell you about his dislike. The man hopes that you will guess the real reason for this excuse.
4. I lost your phone number and did not know how to find you
This phrase claims to be the most stupid male excuse. Let's say a man really lost your phone number, but there are dozens of other ways to find the right person. If a man really wants to find the girl he likes, do not doubt that he will figure out how to do it. He will be on duty under your house, find you on social networks, find your place of work or study, where he will meet your friends. This excuse can sound plausible only in one case, if you met, for example, in the subway, managed to exchange phone numbers and names, and then went in different directions. And then, if there is a real interest, a man will be smart and find you, because this will become his “fix” idea.
5. It's not about you, it's about me
Hearing such a phrase, a girl in love will become even more mired in her feelings. After all, it sounds so mysterious and suggests that there are some serious problems in the life of a man, but he does not want to bother you with them. A mind clouded by falling in love will come up with a logical explanation for any excuse, but if you are used to looking at the world soberly, don’t even hesitate - a man is just looking for a reason to break off relations with you. And, as if taking the blame on himself, he tries to avoid a frank conversation.
6. I'm not ready for a serious relationship right now.
A man really may not be ready for a serious relationship, however, he will never admit this girl he likes. Having fallen in love, a young man, on the contrary, will do everything possible to show the seriousness of his intentions, even if this is not true. This phrase is a common excuse that, on the one hand, protects you from being too straightforward, but on the other hand, makes it clear that there is no future between you.
7. I don't deserve you
Modesty is not the most common trait of a male character. You can be sure that this man is not worthy of you, because he did not have the courage to openly declare his plans, and he chose an easier, but less honest path. If a man says that he is not good enough to be around you, this means that he did not originally plan anything serious, however, he does not want to admit it.
Feeling rejected is not the most pleasant emotion in life. However, when you hear a variation of one of the above phrases, don't let yourself get downcast or discouraged. If love did not happen, this does not mean that you are not worthy of it. It's just that this particular man is not the hero of your novel, but very soon you will meet a person who will become one.
Not always romantic relationships develop like clockwork. It often happens that lovers cause a lot of problems. Here's how to regard the phrase thrown by the man you love: "I'm not worthy of you"?
Many girls, having heard such a phrase from their boyfriend in response to a question about the future of their relationship, lift their chin proudly, considering themselves real queens. But, as one of the heroines of the Sex and the City series said, you don’t need to consider yourself a queen in this situation, because you have just been kicked off ... Why do always straightforward men suddenly start resorting to roundabouts, excuses and in every possible way hide the true essence of things? Why don't they directly say: "I am not satisfied with such a relationship"?
The fact is that the "inhabitants of Mars" are sometimes very afraid of hurting the feelings of girls, therefore, in order to mask the sad essence of this phrase as much as possible, they resort to evasive lies: "I am not worthy of you." Sounds much better and more streamlined than the bitter truth, right? Another man subconsciously wants to make himself look better than he is. And you can do this by belittling yourself in the eyes of a girl. In this case, the phrase about unworthiness is just perfect. Also, when a man says: I am not worthy of you, this indicates his unwillingness to change himself for the better. It would seem, well, if you are not worthy, then reach the required level, like your girlfriend! Prove that your love means something. But no, men with such a character prefer the “reptile” practice: hide their heads in the sand and wait for what will happen.
But most of the time it's not so rosy. Perhaps a man was not initially satisfied with such a relationship, and when he is put in a difficult situation for him (for example, with the question of buying an apartment together or even more seriously - marriage), he begins to resort to convenient "excuses". Also, the relationship could initially be more relaxed and non-committal, and as they developed, when they began to become more serious, the girl’s view of the future of their relationship changed to the exact opposite and she decided to talk about engagement or even marriage. It is difficult to say who may be to blame in such a situation - each couple has their own story, so it is better to solve it individually and with a certified psychologist.
But it can be assumed that the girl, unaware of the psychological storm in the soul of a young man, showed excessive assertiveness. In turn, the guy, instead of giving a clear answer or asking his girlfriend to talk about this serious topic at a more favorable time in a more favorable environment, begins to lie very awkwardly and stereotyped. What to do with a lover after such revelations is up to his girlfriend. Having decided once on such a lie, what will have to be expected from him next? And will it not happen that at one fine moment, finally convinced of his “unworthiness”, he will quietly leave without saying goodbye? So isn't this a sign for the girl that she needs to take the first step towards breaking up the relationship?
The guys, despite their straightforwardness and the rare use of Aesopian language, nevertheless, sometimes come up with such excuses worthy of Byron's Don Juan. — creativity, as they say, rolls over. So girls need to be very careful, and while reading this article, remember how guys can fool our heads. A very common variation on the theme "I'm not worthy of you" is a confession ... of alcoholism and subsequent coding. It works like this: a man who is pleasant in all respects invites the girl he likes on a date with the vector to continue the evening in bed. Most often, this trick works the first time. Then there may be a few more dates with a romantic ending, but suddenly the connection with the handsome man breaks off: he does not pick up the phone, does not call himself, does not appear on the network. And if the girl manages to ask him a tricky question “on the forehead”, then he will not be at a loss to say: “I went into a binge. A year ago, I was encoded, I didn’t take a drop of alcohol in my mouth, then I was tempted - and off we go ... ”. As a rule, stupid girls, having decided that dating a drunkard is not comme il faut, they themselves give up the idea of continuing a relationship with such a person. The smarter girls understand - they have just been “swallowed”, speaking in the jargon of pikapers.
Another option for excuses: "I propose to remain friends." Of course, after such a phrase, one should not even count on friendly relations - the “friend” stops answering calls, does not respond to messages on social networks. And the most “funny” excuse was offered by the ex-boyfriend of one of the regular visitors to the “Woman. En": he summarized his unwillingness to tie the knot not only because he was "unworthy", but also because ... in a month the end of the world was supposed to happen according to the Mayan calendar! Yes, what these men just do not come up with ...
Only with life experience, its accumulation, it will be possible to recognize the lies and deceit of some members of the opposite sex. But it is worth remembering that the phrase about "unworthiness" is a litmus test of a cheap excuse.
Over the years of practice and helping 10,000+ women, I came across the fact that many students did not have an understanding of who a worthy man is.
Some identified him by outward signs - he gives flowers and makes compliments, others laughed and said that they had taken apart the worthy. From this article you will learn:
- How to understand that a man is standing in front of you
- How to fit in and become a real woman yourself
- Where to find a decent man
An article for girls who are temporarily without partners, have started a relationship or even have been in one for a while.
Before I talk about the signs of a real man, I’ll dwell a little on what will happen if you choose “the wrong one”.
In a relationship with an unworthy manin addition to wasting time, you risk:
- Get into a codependent relationship. From the experience of my clients, I can say that unworthy men very often turn out to be clever manipulators. They impose their desires and needs on the woman they love and make them live only in their own interests.
- Lose self-esteem.Constantly meeting the wrong men, many girls forgot how to believe in themselves and plunged into thoughts for a long time: “What is wrong with me, since there are only the wrong ones around?”
- Completely disappointed in men. I also saw many cases of girls disappointed in men and suffered from their loneliness for years.
If you do not plan to spend a lot of time and energy meeting the wrong people, read below what signs distinguish a real man.
7 Unobvious Signs of a Decent Man
Achieves goals, and does not play "patience".A worthy man will not fantasize about the topic: it would be nice to earn a million, open a business, but he will go and realize his goals.
It doesn't matter what he does - he works as an engineer in a factory or writes songs for celebrities - the important thing is that with the help of skills he knows how to earn money and perfectly understands why he needs to get up half an hour earlier in the morning.
He does not play couch driver and does not hang around for years in search of himself/depression/staggering from one job to another, but chooses a business that fascinates and becomes a pro there.
When something goes wrong, he does not blame the tyrant boss or the crisis in the country, but looks for what he screwed up and corrects his mistakes. He will not demand money from a woman and whine that everything is bad in the country, therefore, he, the king, has nowhere to go.
Doesn't run away from responsibility. Covering you with a blanket and bringing coffee to bed is not about responsibility. And even the proposal of marriage does not apply here.
Let's look at examples of what I mean by the concept of responsibility.
Alexey has his own business and team. If he does not act, then there will be nothing to pay people's salaries. He bears financial responsibility for them.
Andrei works in a taxi and, except for his car, is not responsible for anything. I have nothing against taxi drivers, the point is that the level of responsibility of the business owner is much higher than that of the driver.
A worthy man is not afraid to take risks, to expand the boundaries of his comfort, which, a priori, increases his area of responsibility.
He can provide for his woman, if he cannot, then he does not start a family, but works to increase his income.
Separately, I want to say about marriage. A proverbial passport stamp and a blessing from an aunt in a tapestry suit don't guarantee a man will take charge in a relationship. I think you yourself have seen examples where, after the wedding, the husband sits on the sofa, and the woman is forced to work two jobs.
Doesn't live with parents.Your chosen one is not ready for a relationship if after the age of 25 he lives with his mother / grandmother or shares a room with his younger brother. He has not yet grown as a person, has not achieved independence.
Don't waste time on nonsense.He won't mindlessly stick to social media or call you every five minutes. Only slackers do this. People who do what they love and want to become pros know how to prioritize.
Of course, a worthy man devotes time to his beloved, if the woman does not eat away his brain with a teaspoon and invests herself in the relationship.
Does not live according to the principle “And so it will do.”He understands that without constant development there will be degradation, so he always strives to be better than he was yesterday: earn more money, become a good father, a professional employee, look better physically. Self-development for him is a lifelong journey.
He doesn't want all the money in the world out of greed, no. He works not only because of money, behind them there is always an idea to make this world a better place, to bring something valuable and important into it.
Does not criticize without feedback.“You are fat, the soup is tasteless, you haven’t ironed your shirt! Ugh!" - such phrases you will never hear from a real man. Yes, if he doesn't like something, he can say it calmly, without getting personal.
And also offer a solution to the problem. For example, instead of saying: “You are fat”, say: “Honey, I care about your health, I see you have recovered after giving birth, maybe we should write you to the hall?”.
Only an insecure person who wants to assert himself at your expense or instill a sense of guilt criticizes and calls names.
How to fit in and become a real woman yourself?
First, develop. When a girl says that she wants to relax in Monaco, receive diamonds and fur coats as a gift, but at the same time, she last read a book last year, her requests are unrealistic.
A materially independent and intellectually developed man will look for a girl to match himself.
In 90% of cases, he will not want to build a relationship with someone who does not invest time and money in her development, is not fond of anything and does not take care of herself.
You don't have to learn how to make millions or be a tough business woman to meet a real man. However, pumping up your femininity, finding your favorite business and developing in it is important.
Secondly, get rid of the negative attitude towards life.If you constantly complain that everything is bad, there are no worthy people around, then do not be surprised why there are only gigolos and alcoholics around you. What we broadcast to the world is returned to us.
Third, learn to be easy to communicate with.Do not load a man with your problems from the first date, listen more and talk less.
Decent men value tenderness and ease of communication, and not attempts to please in an unnatural way or manipulate through sex. Just in this video, I tell you what, in my understanding, a worthy woman:
Where to find a decent man?
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conclusions
- Worthy men have signs. These are not mythical creatures, but very real people.
- To meet a real man, you need to match yourself: develop, do what you love and be easy to communicate with.
- There are no specific coordinates where real men “are found”. You can meet them anywhere. Be open and feminine, then a standing man will find you.
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